To quote the fabulous J.Hud in her iconic song, If this isn’t love; “God sent me an angel up from above, who is going to love me for life.” Now let me ask you, how many times have you sang along to those words praying and hoping that one day, some day, you too could experience a glimpse of the kind of love J.Hud is singing about in this song? Me too!
Love exists in all of us, and that’s the beauty of this world that we keep trying to find in other people but ourselves. If you could spend half as much time as you do trying to love other people, investing all this love back into yourself, you would find that the basic truth about this life is that you are the miracle you are praying for.
Your only mistake is that you keep giving your love on discount and you keep giving it to the wrong people. When are you going to start loving yourself? What is it going to take for you to start watering your own garden? The grass is always greener where it is watered.
“Loving yourself…what does it even mean? When you have been programmed to know that you need me to complete you. And yes, love is the answer, love is the key. But if you cannot love yourself how could you ever love me?” –Adam Roa Well, it is simple really.
Self love is the appreciation of one’s self. Now why are you dutifully filling my cup while letting yours run empty? When was the last time you looked in the mirror and complimented yourself? Start now. Recite to yourself out loud, one affirmation every morning and monitor your mood for the rest of the day.
Monitor how your attitude towards yourself will shift with every recital. It begins in your mind. The moment you re-calibrate your thinking into appreciating the person who stares back at you when standing in front of a mirror, is the moment you find that you are worth much more than diamonds and gold. And once you know your worth you realize that you too are made of magic.
But with this appreciation also comes the great responsibility of being one’s own disciplinarian. Start small, start with the things you can manage, like cake. So yes! You can eat that cake when you feel like it, but you need to draw the line on how much is too much. You are allowed to indulge yourself, as long as you don’t overdo it because too much of anything is dreadful.
Be kind to yourself. Be patient with yourself. Treat yourself how you would a lover, because you are your first lover. Every other relationship you have outside yourself is secondary. So don’t sit there and beat yourself up wondering how some people have all the luck. It is not luck, it is self love.