Rejection may only mean need for redirection

By Teboho Polanka

Photo by Steve Johnson on Unsplash
Photo by Steve Johnson on Unsplash

I often wonder, why do so many people try to avoid rejections? For some reason, all of us inherently despise rejections. They’ve come to mean lack of capacity or beauty in a way.

Although we’ve seen people who risk it all, and end up where they desired, we can’t seem to want to shake off our cocoons and face rejection for what it truly is. Have you ever been rejected, I mean by an individual or people you least expected it from? Was it worth celebrating? Was it romanticizing?

I give you that some amount of calculated rejection is what you need if you’re ever going to make it out there.

For one, I have tried a lot of things; joined writing competitions. You’d think I managed to secure a win, but tell you what, for now I haven’t. Have I stopped joining competitions? Nope. Why such perseverance?

I’ve come to realize that every rejection meant I needed to improve my communication skills and output. Nobody works up a thriving journalist – all have had to face several rejections – but have, through it all, become better deliverers to date.

I have applied for jobs. A lot of applications. Have I been received with hospitable postures by HRs? A few times, yes, but for a great majority of those applications rejections became my constant companion.

Have I been discouraged? A lot. Have I stopped applying? Most unlikely. Why this stubbornness? I have come to realize that every rejection meant that I needed to upgrade my CV’s outlook.

And I have thought out and developed rejected business plans. I have been rejected a hundred times. The question is, have I stopped thinking of initiating business endeavors? Believe me I haven’t. The reason is that I know that somewhere there is a ‘’yes’’ awaiting my proposals.

It may take time before we meet but with a fair amount of surety I believe that rejections will get tired of whipping my back and give in to my so desired success. And believe me, it was never worth celebrating at face value but after some time I realized that I needed to have been rejected.

Without some fair amount of opposition, what is your success anyway?


Teboho Polanka
Teboho is a Social Worker, Writer and Inspirational Speaker. He is in pursuit of MSc. in Managerial Psychology. Graduates are able to apply psychological principles and methods to tackle challenges in the work environment and provide effective practical solutions. Acting as industrial-organizational psychologists.