An Open Letter to an Aspiring Leader

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Dear You,

I know you are afraid of failing and you think this is going to be another ramble about how there is a beast in you. It is obvious that I just might tell you to unleash the potential and be unafraid of obstacles you may meet. Well, you are wrong.

I am here to get real with you. Not because I have ten thousand keys to success, many write about. You and I both know how discouraging it can get on your road to success. Many people love to talk about how you should never give up and how you can beat this.

However, you know that it sometimes gets hard to create impact in a world where corruption and nepotism drive a lot in our society. It gets so painful when you realize that you have a dream so big but someone in some office overlooks the merit in your idea and judges you by your appearance.

You have gone through so much and no one seems to understand that sometimes it is difficult to keep going. We both know that sometimes insecurities creep in about how you are not doing well enough, or maybe you start to think that your dream is too impossible.

The anger sometimes seethes and you know that had someone believed in you enough, had someone given you the chance and had someone just listened to your intent you could have been far up ahead. I totally understand how sometimes you keep looking at your background and think, “I would never make it coming from a family as dysfunctional as this.”

It is difficult to keep up when everyone seems to have his or her path figured out. However, I am here, as an aspiring leader to remind you that you are not where you were yesterday and that is what is important.

You are not the person you were and that is what matters. I know it hurts and I am not a motivational speaker aiming at giving you impersonal short-lived motivation. I am only here to make you realize that you got this far, with those many rejections and YOU ARE STILL HERE.

Many times, you want to measure your progress by how far ahead other people are. I have felt it too and no, I am not going to tell you to forget about it. I am only tell you to shift your perspective.

Your perspective should be, “The rejections I am facing are cultivating me and training me to know to give people a chance when I get there.” I know it is painful now but, HANG IN THERE. I hope you know that you keep getting cultivated to be better when you go through trials and this too shall pass.

It will take utter honesty with yourself to heal from the pain of the rejections you have faced. I am here to tell you that truth. You are not there yet and that it okay. 

You are hurt by those rejections but they do not measure who you are. In fact, what will accurately measure who you are is the resilience you develop as you get up with every knock out. 

I live you with this quote by Sarah Jakes Roberts. I hope you realize that you are going to make it. Hang in there, if not for anything, do it for the people you wish to touch once you manifest you big dream.

“Sometimes we want to see instant change, not knowing that the disappointment of not seeing that change cultivates the internal change you need  in order to handle that miracle you want. Do not stop grinding!”




Grace is an uprising youth activist who uses her voice to inspire and inform. She has worked internationally as the Deputy Secretary General with Model UN Impact. This is where she advocated for youth inclusivity in the implementation of the SDGs and further launched projects such as PHAHAMA MOSALI. She is currently the youngest SDGs Ambassador for the internationally renowned Global Citizens Innovative Solutions SDGs Challenge.